Wise Father, Amazing Son!

Jakarta, the role of father is necessary to help children understand themselves and ensure appropriate steps to achieve his great future. Take care and educate children not just the responsibility of the mother, but also must be made by the father. Carey Casey, CEO of the National Center for Fathering, on Friday (04/02/2011) revealed that the loss of a father figure has an impact on 27 percent of American teenagers.
The impact of losing a father figure can make children vulnerable are exposed to poverty, unwanted pregnancy, violence, until the pressure of deep depression. This is because teenagers who grow up without the presence of a father, will be inadequate in the association, feel alienated from the surrounding environment, and ultimately, find a way out through narcotics and illicit drugs for the ‘cure sense of loss’ that.

The presence of fathers increasingly crucial as a teenager began to enter the gate of his future full of challenges, ranging from college, career, family life, until one day face old age, of course, need proper preparation. Indispensable role of fathers of children to understand themselves and to choose the right step for its future.

Spend Time Together with Children

Smooth communication usually starts from an emotional closeness. Therefore, a father should start often closer to her son for emotional closeness and communication is established between the two.

Draw near with a child’s self as a best friend to see his travel route, either at school, as well as activities outside the home.

Avoid the habit of stalking or interrogate, but rather use a creative approach and friendly so not impressed spying. Do not also force the father’s opinion or way of thinking, especially if it is contradictory. Indeed the most important thing is to motivate and encourage them to achieve what they want.

According to Ken Canfield, a psychologist from the United States, there are a few things to note about the future father of her children, namely:

1. Look at the dreams and desires about future career
Look at whether the profession will be able to meet the needs of their dreams alive and happy later life. Also, assess the competence and interest in him to a field. Then, korelasikan with professions that exist in real life. Is his career about to advance with what they have now?

2. Relationship is not just a sideline
Who says romance and family ties do not need preparation as a teenager? Watch what kids want from their partners in the future. If they had been dating, monitor the communications and the relationship between them.

3. School and college is an important basic capital
Primary education is the first key to children entering the workforce. Try to see how their progress in academics. Are its values is sufficient to support the profession in the future. Also, see what majors they match their interests and to make them easy to get a job someday.

If the interest was not ‘commercial’, try to find other employment alternatives that can meet the demands of life, while still undergoing his idealism.

Be a Source of Motivation and Help him

After monitoring the route of the child, now is the time the father gives the example and motivation for him. This is not something that is difficult, but keep in mind is how far the father can give him motivation and assistance? If not careful, father of motivation can seem excessive, ‘force’, or make it not grow independently.

1. Let the kids choose their own career
Jobs and careers is the responsibility of the child. Not the things that educate when a father helps his son get a job by way of corruption, aka contact colleagues close by itself. A father can share his experiences and give a reference or practical ways to achieve the dream profession. The rest, let the child do it themselves.

2. Realistic Marriage
If the child intend to marry at a young age, give a realistic picture of marriage is not merely trapped in the nuances of romance. Help without patronizing impressed when he wanted to decide anything. Of course, fathers are more experienced in this, right?

3. Do not get confused with the financial support parents
Dad needs to assess how far the child can depend on financial support from him. Do not let this make it not grow independently. When you see the child more dependent, meaning the father had to change the pattern of support for this. Do not necessarily stop the financial support it. But, look for forms of support that can inspire a child’s independence.

Self Reflection Mirror Error Child

If at any time, children live a life that is not in line with expectations, such as being unemployed or a career on the wrong track, try to apologize to him. Let the kids vent their anger and disappointment to his parents. This way will foster stronger ties and backgrounds in between children and parents.

Practical Steps Building Links between Father and Son :

1. Say if you love him, though had long been saying it.
2. Encourage the child to eat lunch or dinner together. If necessary, help him finish his work.
3. Always make time for her, even though you are no matter how busy.
4. Open lines of communication are always with him. Call him regularly to keep the relationship remains close
5. Be his best friend and provide solutions that not patronizing when he is in trouble
6. Find a child’s favorite things and try to show your interest in this.